Something that humans enjoy is having control – we would do just about anything to prevent that terrible feeling of uncertainty… but in life, it’s unavoidable. At times, uncertainty isn’t just unsettling, it’s crippling. However, it’s vital for growth and, when U find yourself faced with a change or period in your life that is challenging, U can ask yourself what lesson is in it. What is it that U need to deal with directly and conquer?
Your uncertainty could be due to anything – it could be a difficult trend in your industry that is making U rethink your career choice and wonder if you’re truly capable. It might be a shift in your finances that has left U worrying about your cash flow. It could be uncertainty in your relationship that is forcing U to be more honest.
Uncertainty doesn’t always have to be negative, there is a lot of good to be found. U can’t see what the future holds. The only thing U can do is plan and be prepared to embrace whatever change comes to U.
Putting A Plan In Place
Build Your Self-Respect
When U make promises to yourself and others, learn how to deliver. If it’s financial insecurity, then create a budget, balance it, and stick to what you’ve set for yourself. If you’re chasing a new job then promise yourself, you’ll make five new contacts every week. If you’re ready to settle down and find a long-term relationship then follow through by going on at least one date a week with someone who is a potential match.
It starts with being honest and building trust in yourself and in your relationships with others. The more frequently U make promises and keep them, the more U realize how strong U are and how U can handle any storm. It’s all about building self-respect and learning how to trust yourself.
Creating certainty for your finances means being honest about your income and your outgoings and learning how to deal with your spending habits. When U achieve peace with regards to your choices (whether it’s moving home, leaving the country, starting a new relationship or getting a divorce) U should be able to communicate your decision to others who will be impacted by it. One of the most upsetting and scariest parts about life’s situations is the reaction/impact on others. The uncertainty as to how others react may be more difficult than the uncertainty surrounding your situation. Be prepared to listen, but be prepared to state your case and move on.
Every journey is laced with risk, pain, laughter, celebration, and loss. Unfortunately, we can’t cherry pick life and experience only the parts we choose. The ride is all-inclusive and part of embracing uncertainty means understanding that it will always be there.
Fear will keep U stagnant. If U are afraid of giving up stability, U won’t chase opportunities. If U are unhappy today and you continue to engage in the same behaviors and live the same life, U will continue to be unhappy tomorrow. If U are afraid U won’t find another person to make U happy and love U, U will not break up with the person who is making U miserable.
U can let discomfort and fear hold U back or U can work through it to find joy and purpose. It is important to understand that U will continue to hang on to undesirable outcomes if U fear taking risks and accepting challenges.
Life-changing moments often occur when U are simply going with the flow. Sometimes by letting go of comfort, change comes naturally because U have stopped trying to control every situation that U find yourself facing. There is strength in letting things unfold without intention.
With change comes excitement and progress, it isn’t something U should fear.
“Stop clinging and embrace change as a constant ” – Isabelle Cholette
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” – Socrates
“When the winds of change blow, some people build walls, others build windmills.” – Chinese proverb